A Message from Your Future Self
Have you ever seen an episode of StarGate? The series is no longer being produced, but a few years ago, I watched it faithfully. Yes, I am a Sci-Fi geek! In the show, the people had a ''StarGate'' that they could step through and travel to another planet within a matter of minutes. They were explorers traveling from earth to various locations in the universe. Periodically – okay, in most episodes – they would stumble across bad guys intent on destroying life as we know it and they would have to protect the earth or face certain disaster. On a few occasions, they would write themselves notes telling them not to go to Planet XYZ and throw it back into the Star Gate to their past self. The past self could then decide the note was a warning and take Planet XYZ off the gate system so no one would ever travel there, thereby averting the disaster in the first place. They would then go on their merry way exploring other new worlds.
Can you imagine what it would be like if we had the power to send ourselves a note into the past? When I thought about this I knew exactly where in my past I would have sent it and what I would have said. When I was in high school I swam for two teams (school and city league), but after my senior year I just stopped. The junior college I started out at didn’t have a team. I quickly gained the freshman 15-20lbs. That started the yo-yo cycle that became a substantial part of my adult life. It progressed from the 15-20 all the way up to the 90-100 lb mark.
I remember sitting at my best friend’s kitchen table my freshman year in college with a food magazine, talking about some of the meals I was going to make after my ''diet'' was over. Her dad looked at me and said, ''You can’t eat that way and expect to keep the weight off; you have to eat healthy." At the time, I was young, naïve, and truly didn’t think he knew a thing about what he was talking about. Now I look back and realize he has never had a weight issue his whole life and he did know what he was talking about. He was offering me wisdom that I didn’t see and didn’t accept.
My note would go back in time to my last swim meet and I’d tell myself: ''Don't quit! Find a school with a team, or find some other sport. Learn healthy eating habits and don’t gain the weight." You cannot imagine how much food I could consume while swimming long distance races for two teams and working out eight times a week, typically swimming between 25-40 miles. I was the tall, skinny girl who would eat everyone's leftovers when coach took the team out to dinner. I didn’t know that once I stopped, I couldn’t continue to eat that way.
What note would you send back to your past self? More importantly, what note would you write for yourself for tomorrow? I think mine would say that no matter what has happened in the past, it’s a new day. Nothing can hold me back from reaching my goals as long as I’m determined. Life is about choices and I can make good ones. I saw a poster somewhere recently that said ''you always have choices - the one where you work out is better." I’d encourage myself all over again not to make excuses, to study and learn more about nutrition and exercise. I’d remind myself that on days where I just don’t have it mentally or emotionally that I should go on SparkPeople and read motivational blogs. I can’t tell you how many times that has pulled me up out of the depths of despair and gotten me back on track.
And if I had a chance to write you a note… oh wait. I do! Dear You – don’t give up. I know it’s hard. I’ve been there – repeatedly. I know it’s easier to give in and think it’s just for today, just for this meal, just this last time. Easier doesn’t get you the results that you want, does it? You can do this! Make it fun, make it just for you, and don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Be happy. Be healthy. You are worth it!
If we ever get to the point in time where we have a StarGate, I’ll use it. Until then, I guess I’ll have to stick to blogs and post-it notes to remind myself where I should go and what I should do.
What do you want to write on your note for yourself for tomorrow? Is there something in your past that you just need to let go of so you can move on into a new future? Today is a good day to move on and to chase your dreams.
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Comments
I guess in my note I'd say that sticking with things and putting off the immediate gratification ends up bringing more gratification in the end...a wonderful feeling of confidence and accomplishment and satisfaction that feels so much better than that bite of cake ever could. - 3/25/2012 11:18:58 PM
If I could only write one letter, I'd send it to myself at about 32 years old when I was walking a mile a day and keeping my calorie count around 1500. I would tell my younger self to keep up the walking and the food plan!
Of course, I'd explain to myself that otherwise she/I would someday weigh 221 lbs. and later need a knee replacement because of all that extra weight! - 3/25/2012 10:52:13 PM
As soon as you enter high school -- join a sport! Join a sport, and stick to it! Get a scholarship for school (tuition is too expensive!!), DON'T TAKE A YEAR OFF, and stay healthy!
I'm in school now. I took a year off after high school, did nothing of significance. Then I rerouted my major which tacked on another year to my schooling. By time I graduate, I'll have been on the 6-year bachelors plan! - 3/25/2012 5:26:43 AM
I would like to tell my self to keep walking. I too was the skinny tall kid who could eat anything! I couldn't imagine weighing then what I do now! I will never be that skinny again but at least I am living healthy now. - 3/24/2012 6:51:08 PM
Thank you for lifting my mood for the day! Loved your blog.
Diana - 3/23/2012 5:30:39 PM
Alas, I must settle for being grateful that this old dog is able to learn at least a few things because my young pup self would never have believed that any experience of an oldster could be in any way relevant to her. Come to think of it, as an oldster back in school I see that this attitude has not become extinct! I constantly work on respect for others' paths and their right to walk them.
After all, if I really knew all that would I be here today?
Excuse me for the digression and thanks again. - 3/23/2012 2:41:36 PM
- 3/23/2012 1:34:44 PM
You are not unwanted, you are not abandoned, you are good, you are beautiful, God loves you. There is a better place, a way out to come, believe in yourself. Don't hide away who you are, your fear and lack of trust of others need not hold you back. The grownups and their children that persecute you are only jealous of the goodness and the beauty that radiates from you. You can do anything you set your mind to. Failing at something doesn't make you a loser. Give your best and know that it was good enough no mater how much you get made fun of and ridiculed because you tried and that is a good thing. You deserve all the joy and happiness that comes your way. You will be amazed of the things you will accomplished even though you were made to believe you are nothing.
With hope, peace and love
Your future self. - 3/23/2012 10:24:22 AM
Over the last 9 years, I have attempted "dieting" over and over again and never incorporated exercise. This time has been so different, though. I've seen "the light" and have made changes for the "forever." I eat healthy, yet I don't deprive myself of the foods I love. I just enjoy them in moderation. I exercise regularly by doing things I love to do (and not turtoring myself in a gym, which I find incredibly boring), like attending local Zumba classes and walking with my husband (who's also been inspired to join me in the journey to get fit and healthy) and children every chance we get. Now in just two months my husband and I are feeling great, have so much more energy, and have lost a combined 37 pounds and counting.
So my letter to my 18-year-old, high school graduate self would say, "Keep active! Limit yourself at the buffet! Put down that beer! Drink plenty of water! And encourage your [then] boyfriend to do the same!"
Great job to you. Congratulations and thank you for sharing this inspirational story! - 3/23/2012 9:14:57 AM
P.S. I used to watch Stargate too. :-) - 3/23/2012 9:08:13 AM
For sure, if I only knew then what I know now how certain relationships turned out, I would know not to have even got started in them. There were too many. They all ended badly and have affected me that I wonder now who I can trust anymore. There were choices made that seemed good at the time. They turned out badly. Now I don't trust my judgment on what choices to make that I don't do anything.
So now, I'm really angry and hurting and alone wondering what I did to be in all this pain. You trust people that seem trustworthy (e.g. pastors and church people) and you do the right thing, take the high road and you get cut down and outbeaten by the liars, manipulators, cheaters and game players at work and in business.
I'd love to have a letter sent to me today from the future that would tell me now who to avoid and not trust and what not to do so I don't regret getting hurt again. Do I dare look in the mailbox and find it? - 3/23/2012 6:27:56 AM
I would say to my teenage self:
You are kind, intellegent and beautiful. Listen to your gut!
Funny, but those are the same things my mother said to me constantly growing up. Just didn't listen. - 3/22/2012 7:30:49 PM
Don't quit because your overwhelmed.
You don't have to give up because you feel like you'll never win.
Just keep trying and life will get better, much better.
- 3/22/2012 6:36:27 PM
In any case, sure is fun to think about. Thanks for the thought-provoking blog! - 3/22/2012 3:22:07 PM
That being said, I wish I could send a message back to myself at
15: don't date that guy
17: keep exercising!
18: don't be friends with that girl
But at the same time, I can't believe that if I made any of those decisions differently, that I would be where I am today - and aside from those extra 45+lbs I'm carryin' around here is pretty darn good! - 3/22/2012 10:12:13 AM
We are who we are because of the choices--good and bad--we've made. If we had made other choices, we might not be who you are. It's a good thought for eating healthy, NO question. - 3/22/2012 8:54:29 AM
I was just thinking about this very topic...as a matter of fact, it is the subject of the sermon I'm writing for this Sunday's church service. I love the fact that the theme of "letting go of the past and moving on toward the future" is applicable to so many areas of our lives.
If I could write a note to my past self--well, it would be more like a book full of what not to do and who to stay away from! I'm not sure what my note for tomorrow would say...probably something about my ability to do anything I set my mind to; the progress I've made so far; maybe even that I should keep that picture of myself in my head...the one where I'm fit, healthy and happy!
I think I'll start now..."Dear Self..." - 3/22/2012 8:04:16 AM
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