Finally! The Diet to End All Diets!

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By: Dean Anderson : 10/30/2008 5:46:52 AM : 163 comments

Are you a chronic yo-yo dieter? Have you tried every diet you’ve ever heard of, and never found one you can actually stick to long enough to reach your goal? Are you fed up with complicated rules, theories, and gimmicks that are “guaranteed” to solve your weight problems once and for all–but never do?

Well, I’ve got just the thing for you: a diet plan that you literally can’t fail at, even if you try.


If you’re starting to wonder at this point whether I’ve sold out to some well-financed new diet scam, good for you. That’s exactly how you should feel, because there is no such thing as a diet that can guarantee you the results you want.

But there IS a way to eat and exercise that will help you lose weight and get fit, without most of the problems, frustrations, complexities and difficulties that come with virtually every diet plan on the market. It’s a diet plan you can’t fail at because...well, it’s not really a diet plan at all. You don’t need to do anything special, and there's nothing that's right or wrong. All you need to do is to start eating and exercising today the way you’ll be eating and exercising once you’ve lost all the weight you need to lose.

In some ways, you could say this is an exercise in time travel, not dieting–you’ll just be jumping ahead into your own future, without all the trials and tribulations of going on a diet first.

If you’ve had problems with previous diets and weight loss efforts, you'll probably agree that the biggest problem is that these plans all involve ways of handling food and eating that just aren’t “normal” or natural. For one thing, they almost force you to become obsessive and compulsive about what you eat, way beyond a natural concern for meeting your own nutritional and health needs. You either have to become the equivalent of an expert with a Ph.D in nutrition and exercise science to figure out what, when, and how much you need to eat, or you can try to eat like a rabbit, hoping that drastically changing what you’ve been doing will somehow work. Neither of these is something most people can do for very long.

And then there are all those lovely mood swings, frustrations, and worries that plague everyone on a diet. It's being on a diet that makes you think you've "blown it" whenever you break one of your diet rules, and allows you to turn that into a rationalization for eating even more. It's being on a diet that makes you panic when the scale doesn't give you the number you want, and makes you feel like all your efforts are for nothing. It’s being on a diet that makes you feel uncomfortable around people who aren’t dieting, and causes you to wonder whether you can ever trust yourself around “normal” food at all.

But when you realize that what you're trying to do is to simply start eating and exercising now--the way you're going to be doing it from here on out--these things look a lot different. You don't need to do things perfectly every day to "stay on track," and it really doesn't matter if you eat a few calories more today and a few less on some other day--it’s not like you’ve got a deadine to meet or the world is going to end if it takes you an extra day or two to get to your goal. And you don't have to wait until you lose the weight to get on with your life. This IS the rest of your life, and all you have to do is the best you can to live according to your own values and goals--it's the process and the journey that matter, not the destination.

All you're really doing here is turning over the business of getting to your ideal weight to your body, which knows what to do, and taking the pressure off your mind, which often doesn't. If you can figure out roughly how much a person who weighs what you want to weigh needs to eat and exercise to maintain that weight, and start doing that today, your body will take care of everything else for you. It will use your stored body fat for the extra energy it needs until you get to the point where what you're eating is right for your body size and activity level. Then you'll shift into weight maintenance mode automatically.

Now, I'm not trying to say that making this mental leap into your own future is going to be real easy, or even simple. If you have quite a bit of weight to lose, you may need to set up some intermediate calorie intake goals instead of aiming for your final maintenance level right away, so you're not too hungry all the time. If you’re pretty out of shape, you may need to go slowly on getting yourself as active as you’ll want to be later on. If you've got medical issues that affect your metabolism or your dietary needs, or other limitations, you'll need to work with those. And even (or especially) if you've only got a little to lose, you're probably going to have to work hard on being patient with slower weight loss. There will always be plateaus and sticking points.

But all this is exactly the kind of work that really pays off in the long run, in terms of both reaching your goal and developing the skills it takes to create a satisfying lifestyle based on your own values, not someone else's standards and rules.

So, what do you think? Are you willing to ditch the diet mentality and try this approach?

Oh–almost forgot. I’ve been trying to think of a good name for this approach–have you got any suggestions?


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HILLRUNNER
5/29/2009
10:12:19 AM

This is living a healthy lifestyle!
How did you know I needed to read just those words today!
The reminder of what I already know is what I needed to hear!
Thank you so much!!
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SAMWASTALL
5/25/2009
3:55:26 PM

A possible name: "Nutrition for Chessplayers"
When I weigh-in every Friday, my metabolism makes a chess move. When I select my one eating behavior change for that week then I am making my chess move. The game never ends, but it can be interesting at times!
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CATHYMVE
2/18/2009
10:13:19 AM

This artical is wonderful! tells it like it is. That is what has helped me so much is this is not a diet. This is healthy eating and exersise! This is the SP approach!
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FITFINE40
2/17/2009
10:49:34 PM

I like this article can it be done yes. It almost seems like this is all we have to do.
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JUSTCHECKING1
2/17/2009
8:40:34 PM

This is what I call just plain living! I eat different amount of calories everyday. Some days I need more & other less. I like to think of it like balancing a check book only its calories in & calories out. On days that I lift weights I need to eat more. I just get hungrier. While I'm not losing any weight presently my clothes sure fit differently!!!
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SHANNONCROOK22
2/17/2009
3:50:35 PM

great articl, this is exactly what I needed right now, thanks!
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INAETERNUM
2/17/2009
3:17:15 PM

I'm personally annoyed with the use of the word 'diet.' Today's society has labeled the word 'diet' to mean you are "on a plan to lose weight." But the word 'diet' simply means "what you eat." If you eat nothing but eggs, steak, and black beans, your diet consists of eggs, steak, and black beans. If you eat carrots, lettuce, and ranch dressing, your diet consists of carrots lettuce, and ranch dressing. In no way does 'diet' itself mean 'trying to lose weight. The only way it might is in the sentence "I am changing my diet to try and lose weight."

Stop dieting because there is no such thing as dieting. It is impossible to diet because diet is not an action.
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OOLALA53
2/17/2009
12:42:18 PM

Sorry to be the naysayer, but even "the way you're going to eat forever" can be seen as a diet, in that this way of eating is going to be different from what you normally have been doing and is going to involve eating different amounts of some foods: maybe more of some, but definitely less of others. There is just no way around that. And there are going to be times you are going to eat too much of certain foods, so there are opportunities for "failure." The point is it is more your attitude towards your behaviors that will be crucial. You are going to have to find the balance between tough and gentle love. I agree with the idea of aiming at reasonable habits from the beginning with no purposeful starving, and do not envy anyone her slimness if it means she is constantly computing the calories of every food she encounters or fearing every bite of fat or sugar. I just affirm that we can all find our peace with this issue.
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CAMPAGNALA
2/17/2009
10:38:27 AM

Great article.
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JACKIEPAPER
2/13/2009
11:38:33 AM

The Real Life Plan.

I was happy to read this article because this is what I am trying to achieve - eating and exercising as if I were thin, because in my head I already am.
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JUSTYNA7
2/13/2009
9:54:00 AM

Just Be Yourself - the self you want to be
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CHER9658
2/13/2009
8:56:08 AM

Great story that give sound advice. I'd say call it, 'Normal Eatting'.
Thanks for the article!
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CAREWREN
1/28/2009
10:53:04 AM

Great article! "The Get Real Lifestyle"!
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SMLARSON13
1/28/2009
9:58:08 AM

And all God's people said, AMEN!!!! Somewhere in my spark page I said that I CANNOT diet.....then all I do is think about what I CAN'T have. Prefer to think about what I CAN have! Also, have made the commitment to myself to do something ACTIVE everyday (disco dancing IS exercise!!). These are changes that have become my lifestyle, will remain my lifestyle and have changed my life.....all for the better!!! I like to think of my plan as simply "The Healthy Life"......
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GINGERPEACHY
1/27/2009
9:50:34 AM

Thanks! I needed this. I'd call it the "Choose Life Philosophy"
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CRACKERMOM
12/21/2008
6:45:47 PM

Call me old fashioned, but I'm trying to live the "eat less, move more" LIFESTYLE. Who likes the word DIET which is just putting a t at the end of die?
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NODUH60
12/18/2008
2:40:56 PM

Well i adopted something thats already taken......no diet...The Live It (Richard Simmons)
but that way of thinking is this...there are 1000 ways to diet...but just one way to "just live it" .... i have found that way here....thanks SP for all the tools to make that possible....
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BEADINCHICK
12/18/2008
1:50:28 PM

Exactly, I want a plan for life that works with foods I like. Great for me, since I basically like every food group, just rearranging how much and when to eat them. I have no idea for catchy name
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MACHELE1964
12/12/2008
3:04:48 PM

Good article and it will keep me from continuing to feel like a failure!!!!!
Thanks!
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BUMBLE5
11/23/2008
4:26:53 AM

I plan to call this "The Be-Real Diet". That's what it really is, and that's what it will be for me. Thanks for sharing it!
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4X4PAWS
11/19/2008
6:23:40 AM

I am striving to adopt this exact philosophy in my life. I call it 'Intuitive Eating."
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VNR05LH
11/4/2008
9:04:56 AM

Great article. I am not good with names but wanted to mention how well this approach worked for me. I didn't worry myself with calorie counting or intake measures but constantly evaluated the better food choice when viewing what was available. I did pick the one thing I wouldn't give up because I knew I couldn't go without it and didn't want to set myself up for any feelings of failure. As lazy and unmotivated as I am, even small amounts of exercise really made a difference too. Thanks for bringing us all back to earth Dean!
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PEACHES804
11/3/2008
9:53:36 PM

I love food, now I am learning to love me and eat accordingly. Eat to satisfaction as opposed to eating until it is all gone. No going back for seconds, thirds, . . . I don't even have to clean my plate. My not cleaning my plate is not going to have any effect on starving children.

Along with breaking my unhealthy love affair with food, I have to move my butt!!!
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DEBBEV
11/3/2008
1:22:06 AM

Until you reached the 2nd to last paragraph, I strongly disagreed! but in that 2nd to last paragraph you basically described the Weight Watcher plan. & I love the flex plan.

A*MINI*ME
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SIMPLYANGEL
11/2/2008
11:18:35 PM

I am so grateful to have read this. Confirms what I know Diets do not work. So far the tracking of calories and nutrition has been wonderful
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JMCCABE72
11/2/2008
6:44:45 PM

I think I have tried just about every "diet" out there and always lose some weight only to put it right back on and then some. I truely feel that in order to be the weight that you want to be you need to make a "Lifestyle" change.
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GINGERPEACHY
11/2/2008
5:22:19 PM

Thanks so much--great article. Why not call it the Using Common Sense plan?
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JASMIN_ALLEY
11/2/2008
11:26:23 AM

This article is right on the money.

When I think of a diet I think short term. I will eat this way until I reach my goal, then I unlease the beast and go right back to the habits that put the weight on in the first place.

I love the "act as if" principle put forward in this article. I also love how the idea is put forward that food is important, but that I need to start living my life now. Otherwise food and the obsession will rule me, and I will continue to be stuck.

I have not always been as active on Spark as I would like, but the strategies have always been at work in my life. This change has shifted me from a diet mentality to a Live Now mentality. I actually enjoy my body because of the changes through weight loss and physical strength. I love that I spend less on food because I plan my meals in advance. I love that I focus on getting more sleep every night and am an easier person to be around because I am not tired and cranky, or rev'd on caffiene.

Thank you!
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SPPARKY1
11/2/2008
10:57:17 AM

This article is very nicely worded!
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NUBIENNZE
11/2/2008
9:55:04 AM

I appreciate this article. Eliminates all the excuse-making in weight loss--at least for me. ;)
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MIMAWELIZABETH
11/1/2008
10:00:01 PM

"Wellness Principle of Eating" - NOT "diet."
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GLBRITTON
11/1/2008
9:08:11 PM

I have all ready been doing this "diet" plan since February of this year and I have lost 30 lbs. I hope to try to stick with it and see what my results will be in the end.
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HAPPYANDLUCKY
11/1/2008
3:45:24 PM

I like the name Back to the Future diet. It's kind of catchy. Living for this present moment is definitely the best advice you can give anyone. Just enjoy the moment!!
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**EVA**
11/1/2008
1:34:24 PM

You've definitely described the eating style of the typical normal human. Many of us (ME!) jumped off that boat but need to get back on. Spark helps us do just that. Thanks for articulating the admirable goal and doable solution. Big encouragement, simply explained.
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CORRGIRL
11/1/2008
11:15:44 AM

I think it is wonderful, a change I can live with, but mention diet it's stressful, this way you take it slow and change for life instead of until the scales say what you want, because before we know it the pounds start creeping back on. Life change you don't really have this problem because it is just what it says "A Change for Life". Changing life habits to change the quality of life, the way to go.
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TFERERO
11/1/2008
8:47:35 AM

How about the L.I.F.E diet -- Lifelong Initiatives For Everyone.

I love this article. It really speaks the truth, and puts the whole concept of dieting out to the curb where it belongs. Lifelong approaches really do work, and have made a big difference for me.
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FLUTTERBUGCE
11/1/2008
8:16:35 AM

Great article! How about Eating to Live?
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LIVNFITNHAPPY
11/1/2008
1:21:58 AM

How about "LivnFitnHappy" for a title. I picked my user name based on the results I chose to achieve.
Thanks for a wonderful article. The mind is always in need of lots of support when we make a change in our lives.
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RSLINDIANA
11/1/2008
12:17:23 AM

http://www.caloriecontrol.org/calca
lcs.html


This article is exactly how I set my weight loss goals when I joined SparkPeople. Above is the web site that let me calculate my ultimate lifestyle goals for calories and exercise.
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WATCHMEWORK
10/31/2008
10:46:35 PM

Living Tomorrow...Today. Nice catch. Thanks for the blog. You have reaffirmed that I am on the right track.
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JUSTDOIT42321
10/31/2008
10:30:16 PM

The "New Lifestyle Change" sounds good to me.
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NAPPYHEADED
10/31/2008
9:31:46 PM

Back to the Future Diet!
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SHELLPRO
10/31/2008
8:09:42 PM

Just DO IT is taken isn't it? Or mine- I put it in so I'm work'n it OFF!
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H.MACK
10/31/2008
7:02:59 PM

Hmmm...
Somehow "Forget the DIET so you don't DIE from IT" just doesn't roll off the tongue...

Thanks I needed this today.
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JIM*S_QUEENIE
10/31/2008
6:23:53 PM

This article reminds me of the book by Richard Simmons, years ago, called "NEVER SAY DIET" because the word "die" is in it. Wonderful, motivating book. I should find it and reread it. So, I think the name for this article is the same "NEVER SAY DIET" and I am sure, Richard, wouldn't mind you borrowing it for your column!!! He is for anything that will help anyone, and it isn't as if you wrote a book and you didn't use his exact words so there is no copyright problem. Oh, I know another book along the same line but don't remember the author: "DIETS DON'T WORK"--so pick one and go for it as nothing is wrong with helping other's out!!! It is about LIVING AND LIFE, afterall. Vicki
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TIGGERJAKE
10/31/2008
6:04:17 PM

no clue what to call it, But I do love the whole idea, it makes PERFECT sense!
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GILLS62CA
10/31/2008
4:26:42 PM

This is right on. I've been overweight for so long, despaired of ever losing weight. I didn't even know how to go about it. Then one day I decided I would just eat the way I would if I were already at my goal weight. I took an interest in learning about better food choices, with much credit to this website. I haven't given anything up; I just eat different things now, and they taste as good and often better than what I used to eat. And the weight is just falling off me, I can't get over how easy it really is. My body knows what to do, like you said. It's very cool.
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DOLCEDOLCE
10/31/2008
4:13:25 PM

Yes!!!!!!!!!
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UNIQLYME
10/31/2008
2:41:06 PM

This article elaborates on my motto, "It's not a diet, it's a live it!" We need to choose life giving foods, not di-eat-ing foods. My other motto is about exercise...."Fun it off!" With so many choices for activity available, we should all be able to find fun ways we enjoy to get active and burn calories.
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PJFOX2
10/31/2008
2:31:17 PM

This blog makes so much sense! Thanks for the inspiration!
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